When a child or young person is grieving, talking to someone about their grief and emotions may not be something they feel comfortable with or want to do, even if a parent or professional may like them to. Here are some ways to help a child talk about their grief in their own time.
1. It’s normal if they don’t feel like talking
Some children and young people deal with their grief by being quiet. They may not have the words or simply feel more comfortable just not talking. That’s okay. It’s important to not force them to speak about their grief. They will decide when they are ready to open up.
2. Give them space but remind them that you’re there for them when they’re ready
Putting too much pressure on a child or young person to talk about their grief or feelings can sometimes have negative effects. Instead, allow them to approach you in their own time. It’s also important to remind them that you are there for them whenever they feel ready to talk or just want to spend time with someone.
3. Share some of your own thoughts and feelings
Children and young people tell us that sometimes they don’t speak to parents or carers as they are worried about making them feel sad. Gently sharing some of your own thoughts and feelings can help them to see that you are comfortable to talk about their bereavement, and that this is okay to do. For example, “I was thinking about your dad a lot today and was really missing him”.
4. Ask for help if you don’t know how to approach the situation
Winston’s Wish Bereavement Support Workers are here to help you support grieving children and young people. Many different emotions can come up in grief so if you ever want to talk to someone, we’re here to help with any guidance, advice, questions, and reassurance.
Getting professional grief support
Our bereavement support workers are available to offer information, guidance and support, right away. Reach out on 08088 020 021 or use our live chat (click the blue ‘chat’ button on the bottom right of your screen) between 8am and 8pm, Monday to Friday. You can also email us on ask@winstonswish.org and we’ll get back to you within two working days.
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